Second-Hand Stress: Three Steps to Staying Free and Clear

Imagine that you are a young person preparing to take a final exam or play in a big game, and your stressed parents start talking about all the things that could go wrong.

Are there people at work or at home who try to draw you into their complaints, blaming, and worries?

It’s natural to mirror or otherwise react to the emotions of those close to you. When you are around stressed people, it’s easy to start feeling anger or anxiety of your own, to get sick, to perform below your potential

Second-hand stress infects families, businesses, teams. It can take the magic out of special moments like weddings, births, and vacations. It can make you hate your job. Sound familiar?

Three steps to stop second-hand stress:

1. First, if possible, put some emotional and physical distance between yourself and stressed people.

2. Learn to recognize the physical and emotional signals that you, yourself, are becoming stressed: tension in your neck, back or stomach, for example.

3. When you first feel the signs:

  • Smile. This releases the feel-good hormone dopamine which allows you to think more clearly.
  • Relax your abs. Even though it may be hard, relaxing these muscles signals to your brain that everything is going to be OK.
  • Enter “Curves of Life” posture. Sit or stand with your head up and shoulders back, so your spine curves at the back of your neck and at your lower back. This posture exudes confidence, allows optimal breathing, and promotes the flow of nerve signals between your brain and your body.
  • Breathe slowly and deeply from your belly (not your chest). It may take practice to train your body to relax your abs.

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