How to Discipline Your Doubt and Disappointment

These negative emotions prevent you from performing at your full potential.

Do you ever doubt how you are going to perform? Or feel disappointment when you don’t perform as well as you hoped you would? All of the time that you wallow in these negative emotions takes time away from taking the actions you need to improve your performance in the future. You can apply my simple three-step tip that I show you in this video in many areas of your life:

an athletic event

a performance

a meeting

a presentation

a sales negotiation

a date

even dinner with your family!

Less time feeling doubt and disappointment will open up minutes, even hours in your day!

Pressure-Free Parenting: Strategies for Better Health and Performance

With stress-based behavior so commonplace in our fast-paced society, it can be difficult to recognize what is healthy, and what is not.

  • Do you feel rushed?
  • Do you feel frustrated or anxious because you can’t get everything done?
  • Can people “push your buttons” and get a rise out of you?
  • Do you feel tense, lose sleep, eat or drink impulsively, get sick?

My eyes were opened four years ago, when I discovered how to stop triggering stress.

I had thought myself a calm person. I was a proud parent and a successful executive and violinist. I was confident and focused 90% of the time. However, I just wasn’t aware of how snippy, defensive, and frantic I would get when I triggered stress. How I would feel lousy for hours. How it was making me sick.

And how it affected my husband and children.

Stress is contagious. It’s natural to mirror or otherwise react to the emotions of those close to you.

For example, one study found that men whose wives regularly came home upset from work were twice as likely to develop heart disease as those whose wives didn’t bring work-related stress home.

Another study found that when parents of infants are under excessive strain, their babies may be more likely to develop asthma and auto-antibodies that put them at risk for diabetes.

I want to show you the simple steps I took to stop triggering stress, show you how changing your own emotional habits can help your whole family thrive.

  • calmer, more patient and attentive
  • more respectful, trusting and helpful
  • no longer arguing, bullying or competing.

Hundreds of people have used my Pressure-Free method to improve their health, relationships and performance.

Kyra Sichinga says she has improved as a parent and as a professional. The tools which are taught in the course are very practical and simple to incorporate in one’s everyday life. I have become a better mother for my daughter, a better boss for my employees and just an overall better person for the world.  Kyra Sichinga, Executive Director, Urban League


AJoe Newcomb, parent of athletefter my son’s first session with Elle, he was much more relaxed and confident. In his next race, he took nearly 40 seconds off of his time. Elle’s coaching is a big reason my son was able to earn a scholarship in cross-country and track. Joe Newcomb, Parent of Elite Athlete


Nancy Krajny improved her business and her relationships. I knew that stress was bad, but I didn’t know what to do about it. Elle gives you the tools.  I have increased my  business because I relate better with my customers, and I have a new positive relationship with my daughter.  Nancy Krajny, Business Owner and Parent


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Second-Hand Stress: Three Steps to Staying Free and Clear

Imagine that you are a young person preparing to take a final exam or play in a big game, and your stressed parents start talking about all the things that could go wrong.

Are there people at work or at home who try to draw you into their complaints, blaming, and worries?

It’s natural to mirror or otherwise react to the emotions of those close to you. When you are around stressed people, it’s easy to start feeling anger or anxiety of your own, to get sick, to perform below your potential

Second-hand stress infects families, businesses, teams. It can take the magic out of special moments like weddings, births, and vacations. It can make you hate your job. Sound familiar?

Three steps to stop second-hand stress:

1. First, if possible, put some emotional and physical distance between yourself and stressed people.

2. Learn to recognize the physical and emotional signals that you, yourself, are becoming stressed: tension in your neck, back or stomach, for example.

3. When you first feel the signs:

  • Smile. This releases the feel-good hormone dopamine which allows you to think more clearly.
  • Relax your abs. Even though it may be hard, relaxing these muscles signals to your brain that everything is going to be OK.
  • Enter “Curves of Life” posture. Sit or stand with your head up and shoulders back, so your spine curves at the back of your neck and at your lower back. This posture exudes confidence, allows optimal breathing, and promotes the flow of nerve signals between your brain and your body.
  • Breathe slowly and deeply from your belly (not your chest). It may take practice to train your body to relax your abs.

Preventing second-hand stress is just the beginning of your Pressure-Free transformation. My full course includes more that 40 tools to help you manage stress, manage time, and live each day with passion and a plan.

To explore more, check out my testimonials and sign in for a free video series where I share the secret to Pressure-Free. When you are ready jump in, I offer

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